Traditional CBT encourages techniques like thought-challenging and distraction in order to stop automatic negative thought patterns.
And certainly this can be effective, I’ve used it myself and it’s helped me a great deal.
But if you’ve ever tried stopping your thoughts or distracting yourself, sometimes you might notice that either it doesn’t work, or you can still feel it bubbling under the surface.
I’m also quite certain if you ever tried just using positive thought to overcome your social anxiety, you’ll have probably noticed it doesn’t work very well (not talking about rationalization here).
Why is that? I explain what’s going on here in the video about the difference between the two approaches of “thought changing” vs. “thought allowing”:
The relationships we have with our thoughts and feelings is a powerful one.
If we learn to change that, then we are building a skillset that not only helps us get over social anxiety, but also helps us with any emotional difficulty or challenge that arises in our lives.
It’s quite an amazing thing. But it definitely takes A LOT of practice. I think it’s well worth it.
P.S. I’m working steadily on my Dissolve Your Social Anxiety program. It’s a lot of work and I want to get it right, so excuse the delay. But I’m really hoping it’s going to help a great number of people in the coming year.