Are you a mental masturbator (MM)?
You know, “masturbating” by letting your thoughts go round and round and round in your head?
Not fun, I know.
I bet most if not all of you are frequent MMs given that you struggle with shyness and anxiety.
It is just how it goes.
Me? I am so guilty of it. It still happens to me.
I also have learned what to do to end the cycle and pop back into my life, fast.
I can do this very quickly now, where as before it would take me days, weeks even months to recover from an episode.
Here’s a little story…
I was driving on the highway a couple weeks back, where I almost got into an accident. (I wrote about this briefly in a recent newsletter if you remember “Dracky.”)
There is more detail to what happened though:
There was a big huge truck and the lanes were merging due to construction.
Truth be told, I bypassed a whole bunch of cars when they merged early and I went all the way to the end.
This truck driver didn’t seem to like that and he started honking as I tried to pull in from of him.
I honked back and I got really mad.
I lost control and went into victim mode.
What I noticed was how crazy my thoughts were spinning…
Round and round…
And it took me a good 30 mins to settle down and see how I was creating my experience of anger and victimization, that I really thought and believed was being done to me by the truck driver.
But when I owned that I created the WHOLE thing 100% – guess what? I got my power back, felt calmer and saw clearer.
Once I stopped mentally masturbating on all the ways he was wrong and I was right, that he was a jerk, why doesn’t everyone go to the end of the lane like I do, blah, blah, blah.
Mentally fap, fap, fap, fap, fapp-ing!
The same goes for spinning round and round your head with social phobia, low self-esteem, lack of confidence, etc.
Maybe you have thoughts going round and round about how weird you think you are, others think you are, no one likes you, everything that is wrong with you, none of which is true AT ALL.
You little MM’er you. :)
Get control of your state of mind, and your thoughts get control of your life and results. Period.
While thought is EXTREMELY powerful, success and results don’t happen with thoughts in your couch alone.
ACTION is required to get results.
Thought aligned with action, one in the same is where the most powerful and effortless results come from.
Get the right state of mind paired with aligned action and you create a life where success, social or otherwise is ATTRACTED to you, instead of you having to go out and get it.
Think magnetic, instead of neutral or repulsive.
On that note:
If you are a guy who wants to put an end notonly to mentally masturbating, AND wants to create a life where you are aligned in thought and action, where you magnetically begin to attract the career success, the friends and social circles and the women (if you’re single) – and a whole lot more…
…Then consider applying for “The Confidence Mastermind”.
A group of six men (working VERY closely with me) who want their confidence and success to go to levels they never imagined, creating great social lives and more, over six month period, with total support and accountability and the best of all I’ve got.
I am still finalizing the details on the actual start date, but it will officially begin no later than mid-September but possibly sooner.
Here’s the link to apply:
Social confidence and success can be yours if you really want it.
Keep going, don’t stop.