I mean REALLY authentic.
I have been having my own personal battles with what it means to be truly authentic, and realize I haven’t been. I have been called forth by a trusted adviser and friend of mine, as well as calling myself forward into authenticity with some things I have been stuffing down underneath the surface.
What Have I Been Hiding?
Things I have been hiding (or think I’ve been hiding) from the world.
I have come to realize that I am the one that suffers the most, and no one really cares like I do. Or my ego does.
I have had to fess up to things like I am not making enough money with my coaching practice, and may have to get a job.
You see, I am president of a club of entrepreneurs, that are smart, talented and supportive. I was feeling very out of integrity by hiding this, repressing it and if felt like some kind of demon within was writing inside me.
So I decided to set that demon free, by not resisting my truth any longer.
So I announced it to the group the other day about my situation and I asked for help. I was scared and embarrassed, and I did it. They were hugely supportive, and many people were impacted because I was vulnerable and admitted my embarrassment to be the president of a group of entrepreneurs, many of whom are far more successful than me, and that I needed help.
It was very freeing, and if they are uncomfortable with having a president that is struggling to make his business work, so be it.
It wasn’t worth stuffing it down any longer.
Here’s another admission I have for you here:
I am truly afraid to be in a relationship, because I am afraid I will get hurt as I have in the past. I am afraid to be judged. So I don’t let a woman I am seeing, see the “real me.”
I put on a good and charming song and dance, already having ended it with her in my mind. I go on dates or hang out with women, but never even give it a chance to blossom into a relationship.
It is a huge form of self-sabotage that I have known in my head, but not willing to let my heart open up, and the cost has been great. But so is the lesson.
Freeing Up the Soul
All these fears I haven’t been willing to admit have made my soul wary and jaded, but it couldn’t have come at a better time.
Because I am authentically owning up to these things, telling those close to me about them, and even those not so close when appropriate, things are transforming very quickly.
It feels SO good to admit this. So I am admitting it here to you as well.
All of this confession feels like what my soul has been waiting for, even though it is scary as hell. I will say though, that it is far scarier in my mind, then after I speak my truth and face up to it.
I actually feel much freer than in a long time. I hate feeling jaded, and want to feel inspired again. And it’s working. It’s miraculous.
Authenticity = Confidence
I am learning that to be truly authentic I must be right where I am at, deeply acknowledge what I am feeling, without buying into the stories my mind tells me. I must speak my truth, at the very least, to myself…and to deeply acknowledge it.
To feel into the anger, sadness, hatred or whatever negative emotion shows up WITHOUT buying the stories my ego might bring up. Without the “why” and trying to rationalize it.
It adds icing to the cake when I admit to my friends as well, because I get to see what my relationships are made of, and how supportive people can be when you get really vulnerable and authentic.
If You Want to Get Confident, Fast
I am really glad this is happening now, because I am presenting a free webinar called “Rapid Social Confidence” next Sunday, October 27th It will be my best webinar yet, hands down.
No, you don’t have to be this authentic to be social. But I think you are better off doing so in your social life. It will make things WAY easier. So in the webinar I will be talking about how to be authentic AND socially confident.
If you like what I have been saying here, sign up and don’t miss out. This is going to be some seriously good s%!T…and I say that with authentic confidence through my truth.
Because I am feeling freer than ever before, sharing all of this with you. I hope you will join me at the webinar.