Do you often feel like you can’t build momentum to beat social anxiety or shyness and have the life you want?
I have felt that many times.
I still do sometimes, especially when learning something new or tackling a tough issue that is “sticky” for me.
There is a reason for this phenomenon, actually.
It occurred to me on Sunday morning as I woke up from a very social week and weekend (which I talked about in one of my last emails).
I thought about what went well, what I want to improve on or upgrade, and most importantly how I could share my latest with you guys, to help you get rid of shyness and social anxiety and move forward.
Then I thought about how momentum is really important and how easy it is to lose it, staying stuck for years because we do this one thing:
We all have gotten excited about new knowledge, a method or path, started on it and then we STOP.
Starting is easy. Not stopping is actually the harder part and stopping kills momentum.
To keep going.
Or as leadership coach Dusan D. says, where I learned this distinction from he says we need to:
I love this idea, so much.
It is what you must avoid at all costs.
You know what I mean, don’t you?
You get started, and then when it gets tough or you go into victim mode and think “what’s the use” you stop.
You have to start training yourself to stop stopping if you haven’t been making the progress you want.
To commit that no matter what, you’ll solve this for yourself.
That doesn’t mean you should be tough on yourself actually. Oh no.
Being tough and beating yourself up will make you stop, every time.
In fact, it means you should love yourself more, be gentle on yourself while you simultaneous keep going and stop stopping.
It is a true act of self-love to stop stopping.
Because you are continuing to commit to that path of letting go of negativity and creating and stepping into your more empowered and positive self.