Guys are pretty much attracted to beautiful women on some level. Of course there’s variance there but in general there’s a poll towards beautiful women.
From what I’ve learned over the years, most of our fears especially social fear are socially and culturally conditioned.
First is you have to understand that you’re conditioned to be afraid of women when you shouldn’t be. There’s nobody saying you should feel that way. It’s just what we’ve learned.
Second, when we learn to be social is part of our way to deal with talking to beautiful women more or going through our fear, we are teaching ourselves to be social with everybody and framing that she’s also a human being. She may be very beautiful but she’s also like you and she feels what you feel. She might be afraid of the same things that you are afraid of.
There was one time I read somewhere that a beautiful girl was saying that many people thought she had a date on one Valentine’s Day but she spent it alone. Actually a lot of occasions she had to spend alone. A lot of guys won’t come to her because they thought she had a boyfriend.
So as you practice talking to beautiful women, the more confident you become then the more nervous she can be because if you come up more confident and cool, whether you feel the anxiety inside or not, if you get to a point where you were able to mask it, she can be nervous that she won’t notice your nervousness.
When you can do that, when you can be so confident, that can be intimidating to a woman especially if you’re socially skilled. If you can have conversation flow smoothly, ask questions, listen, tease, banter, have fun, there can be points where she feels she’s the socially awkward one.
Remember that there are plenty of beautiful women out there that don’t have that social skills, those that might have social anxiety.
If you talk to a beautiful woman and she runs away, don’t think that you screwed up. You should stop assigning reasons why things happen.
This was part of my framing, when I see and like a beautiful woman I think that she is socially nervous too and that she has a boyfriend but wants to leave him and that she likes me and wants to get my number. Then start to go near her and talk to her.
The bottom line is not about why but the explanation that helps you get the social success that you want, helps you to talk to more women and talk to more people.
If you watch my videos and read my blog, I’m a former social anxiety sufferer, and I’ve learned to be really social and expand that into success on my career, business and in dating, relationship, etc. And it’s important to be social because you can use this skills anywhere to have the success that you want.
So again, when you talk to beautiful women:
1. Conditioning – Do things to overcome your conditioning.
2. Framing your thoughts – Think that she’s a person too and she also feels nervousness.
3. Practice – As you do this, you can be intimidating to her because you have this skills and confidence that she doesn’t have.
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