Many people with a painful condition like social phobia eventually come to a point where they can’t take it anymore, and would do anything to get over it.
If you’re reading this, I’m sure you’re asking this exact question of “how to get rid of social anxiety”.
How to make it go away, how to push it out so it never comes back, how to make it be gone forever!
Well, I have an answer for you, and it’s either one you might not yet be able to understand…or simply won’t like.
Don’t try to get rid of it. Stop this approach. It won’t work.
WTF?!?!?! you might be thinking.
That’s right, I said it.
Stop trying to figure out how to get rid of social anxiety. You’re just throwing gasoline on the fire with this approach.
Here’s why: with anxiety disorders, trying to get rid of social anxiety, push it out as a form of fighting and resisting.
It’s well proven in scientific studies (and my own personal experience in dissolving my social anxiety) that this “get rid of it” mentality doesn’t work.
In fact, it makes it worse!
It’s very strange, very counterintuitive, but VERY real.
So how in the heck do we get rid of social anxiety, without getting rid of it?
The ancient old practice of mindfulness has finally bridged into Western psychology and with astonishing results.
When it comes to technology, business success and conquering the world, Western civilization is virtually unmatched.
However when it comes to contentment, peace of mind and effective living…I dare say we’re behind.
So, what is Mindfulness you might ask? Simply put, mindfulness is a way of putting your full attention onto what’s in front of you, and AWAY from your negative thoughts and feelings fueling your social anxiety.
It’s a way of allowing them to do their thing, because fighting them won’t work in the long-term (even though it does sometimes), because you can’t fight the busy/noisy/chattering survival-based mind that we all have.
Mindfulness is the art of learning to accept this, and act in powerful ways that aren’t connected to negative self-talk or trying to push away negative emotions, no matter if they show up or not.
Now there are some very powerful things in Western psychology that really had an effect with the invent of cognitive therapy (which is what the Eastern philosophies have been teaching for thousands of years).
However, it wasn’t even until the last 20 years that mindfulness has been injected into cognitive therapy with the likes of Acceptance & Commitment Therapy and Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy.
Even though mindfulness (acceptance-based) alone can dissolve social anxiety, we can also add in a change-based theory like belief work and life-story shifting to create a massive effect – that’s like the most powerful Star Wars weapons.
But weapons that never need to be fired off, because social anxiety will be so scared of you and your new Jedi powers; the power of the mindfulness combined with reshaping your beliefs & life story, there simply will be no choice for the social anxiety (the dark-side of the force) to dissolve.
Okay, that was a very “unmindful” and warlike example, but I couldn’t resist. It’s the sci-fi geek in me!
I talk about mindfulness in terms of awareness in my free ebook “10 Keys To Social Anxiety Recovery“. I cover all of this and more in my Dissolve Social Anxiety home-recovery program.
It’s a 12-week program filled with the best information from Acceptance & Commitment therapy/training, experiential exercises (so you actually change by doing it, not just reading about it) and full support in dissolving your social phobia.
No matter what you decide, I hope you’ll consider the mindfulness approach so you’ll never have to ask the question of how to get rid of social anxiety again.
And best of luck in your social anxiety recovery.