As a consciously evolving guy, I know you’ve come across books, articles and blog posts on what it means to be a man, be more masculine or even how to be an alpha male.
Whether that is in context at work, in social situations or with women.
I personally have never been attracted to this term, but I hear many guys use it, especially in the pickup or seduction community.
In years past, I had been actually involved with that community. I used to do the pickup artist thing many years ago when I lived in New York City, but I left the whole scene, because I found it was quite superficial, in terms of being overly manipulative, inauthentic and all about doing, no much on being a better man.
Even though I am still grateful for that experience, because it kickstarted me on the path of getting out of my shy, introverted self in terms of meeting or dating women.
But shockingly in the last several months, I have starting watching some videos again that have come up in my YouTube feed, related to being a consciously evolved man and seduction with women.
I’m always interested in learning and growing from people who have something valuable to contribute no matter what the area of life may be.
There still is a lot of garbage out there, but there are companies and coaches that teach seduction, that have really evolved and grown and work on much deeper levels now.
So though I am not a “pickup artist” per say, I do use and continue to expand my seduction skills as a single guy. My “social seduction skills” (connecting and making friends with both men and women fast) are quite good, and that’s what I primarily teach.
Social skills are great, because you’ll meet women as a byproduct of being social. Though you do have to move things forward differently than in purely social situations.
Then there is the more pickup-focused aspect which hones in more on talking to beautiful women directly.
Again, if you find the right stuff, you’re good. If you find the wrong stuff, well, it can set you back years like it did me.
But I digress, let’s get back to talking about that “alpha male” thing.
I do see how there is merit to the term alpha male, but I think it often gives the impression that you have to “be alpha” and dominate everywhere.
That’s a mistake, because end of the day we truly don’t have the control we may think we do, if there is anything I’ve learned in my 37 years on this third rock from the sun.
There is only one thing you should be concerned with dominating.
You should only be concerned with DOMINATING YOUR OWN REALITY.
Your perception of reality, which affects how it turns out, what results you can achieve in this human game we play.
No, not in dominating others or situations, but your own reality.
If there is one thing you have control of, it is to continue to dive into your awareness, and keep waking up, diving deeper and cracking the code of reality as you see it.
Then shaping your code of reality to work for you.
Yes, like Neo in the Matrix. As cliché as that may sound, it is still one of the best reference out there (look up the teacher Jed McKenna “The Matrix” on YouTube – he explains this very, very well.)
If you haven’t already, you need to take responsibility to shape your reality it in a way that suits you.
Another way to see your alpha is the expression of your highest and best self on a consistent basis.
Who is to say that the CEO of a fortune 500 company, is more alpha than a man living secluded in the mountains, off the land, free from social obligation?
No one but you, that’s who.
Yes, there are ways of thinking that get you better results with being social everywhere, better leadership skills, better business skills, better with women.
But that’s only if you want to play the social game. I personally love this game and love teaching and coaching on it, too.
You see, I’ve come to see that most everything in life is more a less a game or illusion. It’s all made up, all the distinctions, the worlds, we make them up both collectively and individually.
So how do you want to play? What is your version of your “alpha”?
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